They say,If you truly want to know yourself:look at your 5 closest friends.
Because you are a reflection of the people you spend your time with.Whether you like it or not,like them or not,friends are in a position to do two distinct things to us:either push us forward or pull us back or rather drag us behind.Because you see as a young musician,I never felt the need to learn how to work on my vocals.
And as a young student,I only really started to get in trouble when all of my friends started to flunk.Think about it.When you got your results who were the first people you asked, “So how did you perform in Maths,Geography and History?” And you know we always assumed that our grades were okay as long as we got more A’s than our mates. But when it got to getting into college,did all of you guys get accepted into the same place?You see? That’s why I say its important to have friends with benefits!Because if they don’t add to your life then they definitely subtract from it.If they don’t do nothing at all,then that’s just as bad as writing a suicide note.Because breaking even is an exact profit.
Listen:As humans we look at our surroundings and learn to adapt to it.So if you surround yourself with negativity,what do you expect to be the outcome? You end up full of shit because life is too short to live for other people’s ideas and that’s the harsh reality.You know whenever I used the term friends,I add the quote unquote because apparently I have almost five thousand friends on Facebook, six hundred on twitter two thousand on Instagram and some of them call themselves fans and you know whats funny,all they ever did was to like my picture.
So wait:Am I implying contrary to popular belief that you should only be friends with people who help you?YES I AM.People that respect your identity and the decisions you choose to make indefinitely.People that can help you grow.Because TRUE FRIENDS are people who benefit you emotionally, spiritually, mentally and regularly.Not just a ‘friend’ who calls you on phone just because you believe to enjoy yourself you don’t always need to get drunk.Not one that haves sex and laughs at your virginity because you believe in integrity.Not a friend that smokes that makes you the bar of the joke when you oppose to conforming;although they know you are an athlete and they understand how it affects your performance.Not a friend that puts you down nine out of ten times whenever you are in a crowd but then becomes your best buddy when no one is around…that’s NOT a TRUE FRIEND.
But at the same time remember,one hand washes the other before they can both wash the face.So before you can expect good friends;you have to learn to be one yourself and that involves having morals that you STAND by and STICK to,because as Malcolm X said;”A man that stands for nothing will fall for anything”
So before I log off,my parting short… there’s nothing wrong with having friends with benefits because ultimately both of you can have ways to benefit each other.