I want to say something and I am so sure that most of you will easily agree with me on this. It’s always hard to find out that a person you once considered a great friend has completely turned their back on you. Life is full of surprises, some good and some bad. From my experience, bumping into hard ones never gets easier, but you just learn from it. That’s the only thing we can do…and that’s to simply move on.
Well this is so funny. There is so much about my fate that I can never control but other things do fall under the jurisdiction.
I can decide how I spend my time, whom I interact with, whom I share my body, life, time, money and energy with. I can select what to read, eat and even study. I can choose how I’m going to regard unfortunate circumstances in my life whether I will see them as curses or opportunities. I can choose my words and the tone of voice in which I speak to others and most of all I can choose my thoughts. I mean there’s no excuse about anything I do in life. I am held accountable over everything in my life. That is why out of all the choices offered on the table, I have chosen to write this article about a ‘best friend’.
Life is a journey so they say. We have to climb up all the hills, run down all valleys,expect the unexpected and most importantly jump all the hurdles we meet our way in order to reach our destinations. A rolling stone gathers no moss, that’s what my kindergarten teacher used to tell us every single day in class. In life you don’t have to be that rolling stone. I mean, even life itself will never allow us or rather give us the space to be one of those rolling stones. Why do I say this? Picture a stone with all that motion rolling down the valley. It will sweep everything that comes across its way. Now picture yourself as that very stone with all that motion rolling down the valley. You don’t have to sweep everything that comes your way. On your way down, you will have to just take heed of the road signs and traffic rules. If you don’t, you perish. It is that simple. Weird! Is it?
Okay, stay with me. The people we meet in our lives are the road signs and advises that they give us are the traffic rules. You fail to follow the rules and you are doomed! You involve yourself in a very terrible carnage. Their actions towards us that affect our lives either positively or negatively, are the directives and signs that they give to us along the way. It will always be our decisions that dictate our destiny. Be it a wise or stupid decision, it will always be defined by the end result. That is how funny we human beings could get at times. Surprisingly, no matter the situation, we will always complain. Just as Abraham Lincoln once said, we can complain because bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses. Either way, it is a self-decision and self-conviction.
Today I am not writing about love and relationships. I am breaking the monotony by writing about fake friends. In this life, just as I said in one of my previous articles; relationships are a two-way thing. You need your partner as much as they need you. No one is more special than the other. It is so awful that we can get to a position where we give our trust and loyalty to our ‘friends’ and they get it hard to give it back in return.
There is no respect between the souls of two individuals if their minds cannot be in a position to trust each other and there is no trust between them if their hearts cannot accept the truth of each other. I have been brought up knowing that friendship is all about trust and loyalty. When you are in a position of complete trust between you and someone else, then that is true or rather real friendship. Loyalty is a bit different.
Loyalty is basically the quality of being faithful or devoted to someone or something.
Why do we change when the people whom our hearts are devoted to need us the most? Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are in a real fix and you have tried all the options you had and they all kind of failed and you end there stressed up? Then you remember that you have a best friend whom you’ve been with through hard times for some time now. Then you pick up your cell phone to seek for help and they don’t respond to your calls and if they pick up they are ever busy?Have you ever been in this kind of situation where you can’t think straight and make your way to their residential to talk to them but what they give you is a cold heart or rather a shocker that they can never give you any solution to your problems?
Is that not betrayal?
Well, I ask because it varies from person to person and the kind of needs and urgency one has. And I am not often surprised at what some people consider ‘’betrayals’’ in friendships,romantic relationships and family relationships. Some people consider themselves loyal to their family as a whole, their school, their team or their religion.
I think it’s really important to stand by friends, significant others, relatives and spouses, but sometimes loyalty turns into blind loyalty and can hurt relationships and the people involved.
How do we define loyalty? How do you define loyalty? Is it different depending on the type of relationship? How important is loyalty to you in relationships? How important could be loyalty in your relationship? How much significant is betrayal of trust?
Do you consider yourself loyal to anyone or anything? Has your loyalty ever been challenged? If you disagree with the idea of loyalty being essential to relationships, what is that characteristic that is most important to you?
Whatever the case, remember what I said earlier when we started off this article. The only thing we can always do when we encounter such situations, is to walk away and move on. Do not put your trust in man but put all your trust in the Almighty Father.
Has a friend that you ever put your trust in disappointed you in any way or the other? How was the experience? How did you get through all that disappointment? Share your story with me. Thank you for reading.